Surviving The Holidays In A Long Distance Relationship
Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas to all of you! I just love the holiday season and it has been even better being able to celebrate it with my husband in America.
Unfortunately, not everyone can celebrate with their partners this year. So today’s post will outline some ways that you can deal with this situation.
Long distance can make or break even the most solid relationships. Many people cannot handle it because of the separation and loneliness, but if you can get through it, you will reap the benefits.
My husband (then fiance) and I were separated while we waited for the K-1 visa for about 11 months. This time apart was agonizing! Although we had the option to visit each other during the waiting period; we decided not to risk being turned away at the airport.
Celebrate The Holidays With Your Partner In Another Country
One way that you can make the holiday season memorable is to video chat while opening gifts from each other. This will make it feel like your partner is right there with you. Of course it won’t be as great as being able to hug and kiss your fiance(e) but it will allow each of you to be there for each other.
Other ways to celebrate together:
- Decorate your home together on video
- Cook a holiday meal together on video
- Record lovely voicemail with holiday music
- Send personalized gifts
- Create holiday cards with photos of you together
- Plan a new years celebration apart
- Stay on the phone with each other all day during Holiday/New Years (depends on cost)
Thanks to technology, many of you will be able to stay in touch without huge cell phone costs. There are so many apps that allow low cost or free phone and video service to anyone in the world.
Apps To Use For Long Distance Communication
- Google Hangouts
Celebrating The Holidays When You Have Different Religious Backgrounds
Being followers of different religions should not stop you from celebrating with your partner. Since you are still together, it means that you respect each others faith so why not celebrate it with your fiance(e) or partner?
Whether you celebrate Christmas, Milad un Nabi, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or Bohdi Day; the important thing is that you support your partner in what ever faith they believe in.
Many immigrants think that having different faiths could cause an issue with the immigration process, but this isn’t the case. As long as you can show that you have a strong relationship, you can get approved for the visa you are applying for.
One thing that the immigration officer will want to see is that both your families know about your relationship and are supportive. If you have gotten married and are applying for a CR-1/IR-1 visa, make sure to follow the customs of your spouses country. I have read about visa denials because the marriage was not customary in that specific country and the family was not aware of the marriage.
Breaking Up In A Long Distance Relationship And The Visa Process
Breaking up is common in long distance relationships because of the stress, loneliness and frustration. If the break up is temporary and you both just need some time to think things through, it may not affect your visa application.
Communication is so important in a long distance relationship because that is all you have. It can be easy to just hang up the phone when you are upset but do not resort to this technique. You are leaving your partner with no options and no way to get a hold of you.
If the break up is permanent, you may want to contact the USCIS by phone to cancel your petition. Remember, once you cancel the petition you cannot reverse it. If you decide to get back together at a later date you will need to apply all over again and pay the application fee.
Last Words Of Encouragement In A Long Distance Relationship
I know how important it is to have a support system around you while you wait for the visa approval. Make sure to have your family and friends for support and explain how difficult it is for you right now.
You need someone to open up to in your home country because this will allow you to lower your stress and take your mind off of the immigration process. The last thing you want is to be isolated while your partner is in another country. This is a sure fire way to cause communication problems and further stress to your relationship.
My husband and I have been through a lot together but we are very committed to each other. No matter what happens we know that we are stronger together than apart. We have had our ups and downs but we always see the big picture in the end.
Thank you to all of you who have sent me messages. I truly appreciate all the kind words and hope that the new year brings you and your loved ones together. Let’s make 2016 a year to remember!
Happy Holidays & Merry Christmas!